Do you ever look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself-I love you? Have you ever given yourself a hug, or a kiss? Do you ever stop to appreciate all the things that are amazing about you?
Girlfriend, if you are anything like the rest of us-you answered NO to most if not all of the questions I just asked you! And that’s why you need some shaking up so you would realize that self-love is one of the most important elements of happy life!
I’m here today to tell you that loving yourself is not hard to learn and I’ll give you 5 easy things you can do on a daily basis to start loving yourself and consequently skyrocket the happiness level in your life.
Before we start, I want to ask you to decide and commit to implementing these small mindset changes because that is the secret to success!
1. Focus on the good in your life
What we focus on grows. And even before you start going there in your thoughts-I now you have a lot of shit I your life! I do to! But that shit becomes a lot less shitty if you change your perspective! Are your colleagues really so bad or you simply hate your job and every day you are there you are just spraying your negative energy around? Does your hair really look so bad or you simply don’t have time to commit to fixing it all the time like women on the social media whose job is to look fab for the camera?
Next time you pass by the mirror stop to appreciate your good sides, the features you like about yourself! Stop and really look at that person staring back at you! When was the last time you gave yourself a compliment? Do it daily! Make it a habit of focusing on the good sides for 30 days and watch how your attitude towards life transforms and with it your reality and happiness level!
2. Stop comparing yourself with others
Speaking of fab looking women on social media-stop torturing yourself so much! You are an adult, rational woman! You KNOW that what you see out there is not a reality.
And yes, there are women who are size zero (if that is your ideal body type) and yes there are women with great hair, and yes there are women that are 50 and look and dance like they are 20 (hello jlo!) but you still don’t know what’s behind the scenes.
Some of those women have it as a JOB to look good, some look totally different without all the makeup and fake lashes and hair, some of them are totally even more gorgeous in person then on tv. But that doesn’t make you any less! Someone likes strawberries, and someone thinks blueberries are totally amazing. They don’t give much fuck about each other; they are just enjoying their own uniqueness!
So, stop comparing. That will never get you anywhere! Compare yourself with your previous self-is there anything you want to change to better?
3. Start working out
Nothing will get you in a better mood then some good ol’ sweaty physical activity! Your butt will become tighter and perkier and you’ll feel amazing from all those endorphins flooding your bloodstream!
With that being said, how about you start changing the things you don’t like about yourself instead just hating it but not doing anything about it?
Yes, you should work out for your health and better mood, but also so you would look better. If you don’t like your haircut go color your hair red is that’s what you desire.
I’m not too crazy about my hair. I always wanted to have a fabulous, thick, long, curly hair. I tried many things over the years but nothing really worked to get me the look that I like. So I got a wig! And I love it! And the funny thing-the moment I start wearing it, I stopped carrying so much about my hair. I even started liking my own hair. That’s how it usually goes my friend-grass is never greener on the other side. And if you want to see my wig go to my Instagram page. (click here)
Bottom line-life is way too short (even if you live till you are 100+!) wasting the precious time on feeling less than for something that you can change is the ultimate sin! It’s a crime towards yourself!
4. Clear out your space-mental and physical
Clutter will burry you in negativity faster than anything else! Mess outside creates a mess inside and when your energy is scattered all over the place self-doubt and self-criticism creep in very quick. Plus, the work of clearing out your physical space becomes cleansing for your soul. It’s a type of meditation.
Clearing out mental space requires meditation and detox from technology. Having some quiet time to just BE, to just exist and don’t have to do anything is essential for our well-being. We need those moments when we slow down, otherwise we start drowning mentally. The same way divers need to come up to fill up the oxygen tank, we need to slow down mentally and refill our batteries.
5. Sleep more
Sleep deprivation will cause you to feel depressed, to lose motivation, gain weight, feel anxious. We need sleep, we can’t function without it. If you are always rushing around, if you are always feeling on the edge, if you need caffeine and sugar boosts constantly-you need to make some major lifestyle changes and you need to start with sleep.
While sleeping, our body and our mind rests. And having good morning and evening routines additionally help us feel better and conquer the day. Watching just one more episode of Netflix (guilty as charged) cannot be as important as feeling good and strong the next day. I’ll be talking more about routines in one of my next videos, but for now-pick a time when it’s optimal for you to go to bed so that you can wake up rested the next day. Be in bed, with lights off and your covers on by that time. Don’t break promises to yourself!
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