Never apologise for who you are

What if we just accept ourselves for who we are? What if we stop apologizing for the way we feel? What if we just decide that we are important? What if we decide it is time to stand up for ourselves?

Questions can go on but the liberation lies in answers.

So what if we accept ourselves for who we are? It is one of the hardest things you will ever do. It is hard to just BE.

Just be yourself without apologizing, without thinking what will others say, how will they respond. It’s called being authentic and that’s one of the secrets for eternal happiness.

So are you willing to give yourself that gift? There’s a trick that will get you there but you need to think hard if you are ready. Once you jump on that ship you are gone to the land of STRONG and it can be lonely out there. It is beautiful, don’t make mistake, but once you become strong you can never go back to being weak again. The feeling is intoxicating and highly addictive. You become high on life (my favorite saying) and, like with any drug, you will always chase the feeling. And the more you chase it the better you become at it (and don’t worry with this trick I’m about to reveal you will be able to catch it every time).

Being good at happiness is a big thing, and worth every second of hard work.

But it’s not hard; unless you are one of those who just LOVE to work hard. Hard does not exist. Everything is in your head!

The trick is DECISION. Just decide and BE!

And fail at it, and get up, and decide again, and go for it, and fail, and get up, and… you get the picture right? Just do it (thank you Nike) and do it and do it. Like anything else, it becomes easier with practice. You can practice being happy like you are working out in the gym. And you will see instant results.

Isn’t that fun?

And what if we stop apologizing for how we feel?

You feel it, you own it! No apologizing! Do you have to apologize very time you have pain in your stomach? Why would you then apologize when you have pain in your heart? It is the same thing, except that our society knows how to deal with stomachache much easier that heartache. Sad really, since both existed for same amount of time (read forever, since Adam and Eve). Somehow, we came to the point where it is not accepted to talk about feelings but talking about illness is a regular chit-chat topic.

Scary thing is that from unresolved emotional issues come all those physical issues. So why on Earth would you want to bottle up and make yourself sick?? Are you a masochist?I don’t think so! So let it out, pour it out! That’s how you resolve it! Things become much less scary when they are out in the open, out in the sunshine and being examined. When they are lurking deep inside your psyche they have ability to transform into these big scary monsters and they eat you up from the inside, bit by bit, taking all your energy and making you feel weak and helpless.

And what if we just decide that we are important?

And we are! Every single one of us is the most important person on this planet. So now, how’s that possible you may ask. Only one can be THE most important, all the rest have to be LESS important! Well, the thing is, in this Universe there are no exclusions. We all are the most important. There is no competition. So, relax and enjoy your importadness! And for Haven’s’ sake start acting like on important person that you are!

Finally, what if we decide it is time to stand up for ourselves?

Time is never going to be right, no one will ever give you a magic pill that is going to make you permanently happy. Some people are naturally happier than others but we all have equal amounts of challenges (never problems-that doesn’t exist) and we all face hardships, and we all get into situations where we need to make that decision to be happy.

Because happiness sometimes just flows and sometimes you need to make it flow, in the end it doesn’t matter how it started as long as it’s flowing.

Standing up for ourselves can mean many different things. Decide what it means for you and then do it. Just make it happen once, become fake brave once and do it. Don’t think about the future; don’t think about how many more times you will be in a similar situation. That doesn’t exist. You are here and now, this is the only moment that counts.

Give yourself that love and respect that you are craving and you know you deserve. When you give it to yourself others will follow.

Don’t forget- what kind of energy you project that is what you attract.